The key to activating maturation is to take care of the attachment needs of the child. To foster independance we must first invite dependance; to promote individuation we must provide a sense of belonging and unity; to help the child separate we must assume the responsibility for keeping the child close. We help a child let go by providing more contact and connection than he himself is seeking. When he asks for a hug, we give him a warmer one than he is giving us. We liberate children not by making them work for our love but by letting them rest in it. We help a child face the separation involved in going to sleep or going to school by satisfying his need for closeness. Gordon Neufeld
Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.
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Benjamin Spock
Parenting requires a delicate balance of letting your child be your spiritual teacher while you maintain the clarity and boundaries to be her Earthly teacher.
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Jennifer Griffin
Remember, nothing is ever created or destroyed. Therefore, unresolved emotional pain from childhood does not dissolve by itself. It sits waiting to be declared, and a child is the ultimate vehicle of expression. In order to transform the energy into something positive, the pain must...
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Anonymous
A hallmark of virtuous adulthood is learning to find freedom in your work rather than freedom from your work, even when work might hurt.
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Ben Sasse
If you want to know about sex don't ask your parents. They don't have any and know nothing about it. Find out yourself
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Bangambiki Habyarimana
More Quotes By Gordon Neufeld
Children learn best when they like their teacher and they think their teacher likes them.
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The key to activating maturation is to take care of the attachment needs of the child. To foster independance we must first invite dependance; to promote individuation we must provide a sense of belonging and unity; to help the child separate we must assume the...
Children do not experience our intentions, no matter how heartfelt. They experience what we manifest in tone and behavior.
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